On love
Valentine’s Day is a perfect occasion to ponder that four-letter word that carries such significance to the human experience -- LOVE. 💕 Most people spend their entire lives searching for love, hoping for it to be true and everlasting, trying to sustain and nourish the bonds of love, and wishing that it didn’t hurt so damn much when love falls short of our expectations.
Romantic Love can feel fickle these days, and finding compatible attractive partners has never been more elusive. It’s easy to feel unlovable after suffering rejection and setbacks or enduring a series of failed relationships, and the trauma can harden the heart and make us question if it’s even worth it to continue looking for love. The lyrics of a Tina Turner song from four decades ago comes to mind…
What’s Love Got To Do With It?
What's love but a sweet old-fashioned notion?
Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?
Love is both high risk AND high reward. There are few emotions as powerful as that of love. The elation of having our heart captured by another and feeling wholly embraced in body and soul is incredibly uplifting. Love is a drug, and its addictive nature turns most of us into hopeless romantics, forever pining to receive a hit of the magic potion that is love. 💘 It’s typical to fall into the mindset of believing that life is not complete without having someone to love, which is probably true, but the wonderful discovery I have made is that love comes in many flavors.
Mutually beneficial relationships are often disparaged as being “transactional” and therefore “less than”, but I do not buy into the notion that the only valid pathway for enjoying a fulfilling romantic love life is via a conventional vanilla relationship. When you expand the paradigm and seek to build loving relationships through varied avenues, from embracing the Platonic Love of friendships to finding a Paid Companion to serve as an outlet for expressing your loving side, you'll come to find that love is everywhere. There is no reason to be cynical or jaded about love, as love becomes abundant when we plant the seeds of love by connecting with others and allowing time for them to grow into loving relationships.
The beauty of life is that outlook shapes reality to a large extent, and we get a choice in how to frame the story of our lives. If I FEEL loved and cared for, even momentarily within the bounded time of being with a New Suitor, then that becomes my lived experience and my truth. I will embrace love in all forms, and on this Valentine’s Day I want to wish everyone a year ahead full of joy, warmth, and LOVE.
“One must love a little or a lot, following nature, but quickly, during an instant, as one loves a birdsong which speaks to one’s soul and which one forgets with its last note, as one loves the crimson hues of the sun at the moment when it disappears below the horizon.”